Secrets To Loving Your Body
“Accepting yourself as you is the most difficult thing in the world, because it goes against your training, education, your culture. From the very beginning you have been told how you should be; Nobody has every told you that are good as you are.” — Osho
Faith was such (and still is) a major part of my recovery and something I never touch on or speak openly about.
We all fall victim to comparison and self-criticism.
We are surrounded by contradictory messages telling us what “beauty” is and where our self-worth and identity should come from.
But with the mass amount of confusing information, do’s and don’ts, fad diets and gym-bunny accounts my faith has time and time again given me a grounded belief that my worth and identity far surpasses what I look like.
Now, there is nothing wrong taking care of your body!!
We are even told: Your body is a temple [1 Corinthians 6v19]
I love the gym, being active, I often fork out to get my hair and nails done nicely, I am all for eating well and wearing pretty clothes. It’s all self-care and it does improve your wellbeing there is no doubt about that.
But our bodies are not designed to be the focus of obsession, the source of blame or neglect.
God doesn’t want you to be constantly striving to change; Constantly comparing and underestimating your purpose and abilities.
Trying to change our bodies reinforces the deep belief that we are not good enough as we are, we see ourselves through cultural and societal lenses, when God looks at us and says:
You are ALL GOOD there is NO FLAW in you [Song of Solomon, 4v7]
I have dodgy knees and find it hard to run, I have been very ill with eating disorder, self-harm, and it can be hard to hear this and think God had good intentions, hard to feel blessed in the body I have. I know others may be suffering from worse physical impairments and I want you to know that God did not ad does not want suffering from you.
“Every GOOD and PERFECT gift is from above” James 1v17
We live in a world where we have free will, where bad things happen, illness, injury, mental health problems, heartbreak…. God offers an abundance of healing and wants us to place these burdens onto him instead of carrying around bitterness, anger, frustration or sadness.
Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
In my own recovery I found the more I began to turn to God with my issues and honesty, the more things started opening up about the more “coincidences” in my recovery came along. People walked into my life who offered unconditional support, circumstances started to change, jobs, relationships, I started looking upwards more than inwards.
Philippians 4:6–7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
Take it from someone who has done everything and anything to change herself, I’ve never felt 100% comfortable (despite my bubbly confidence) in my own skin. But every other place I turned to offered no long-term lasting confidence boost; no key to higher self-esteem, no purpose, and definitely wasn’t reliable at dictating my worth.
My faith taught me that my body was made for me, for the glory of God.
To look beyond the image and see what talents and gifting I’d been given, and allow Him to turn my pain and suffering into an abundance of opportunities and growth.
When messages bombard me telling me I’ll be happier with shredded abs, a thigh gap and tanned skin, my God says, these things can be good but should’n’t be the focus of obsession, a worry to us daily or cause of distress.
Do Not Worry About Your Body, What You Wear or What You Eat [Mathew 6v24]
And that we shouldn’t respond in fear, but know that through Him we can cope and go on to achieve:
God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control [2 Timothy, 1v6]
Placed within the same body you so quickly neglect, doubt, blame,
Do you see your worth?
Do you recognise your potential?
Do you realise the hundreds of gifts; all unique, perfect and placed within you, for you?
If you are struggling to feel accepted in your body, to love, cherish and own your worth I then I want to affirm to you that God is longing for you to bring that burden to Him, for Him to carry.
You are unconditionally and everlastingly loved [Jeremiah 31v3]
Made in His perfect image [Genesis 1v27]
That you are fearfully and wonderfully made [Pslam 139v13 ]
You are ALL BEAUTIFUL my child, there is NO FLAW in you [Song of Solomon 4v7]